Marriage is a beautiful thing, a union meant to bring joy, growth, and companionship. As someone who is married, I always share this simple piece of advice whenever I get the chance: don’t ignore red flags.
The Signs Are Always There
Before you say “I do,” the signs are usually already there. Whether it’s smoking, heavy drinking, cheating, or consistent dishonesty, red flags are never truly hidden. We often see them during courtship, but choose to downplay or ignore them.Why? Sometimes it’s the wealth, status, or potential the other person brings. You find yourself saying, “Let me manage. Things will change after marriage.” But ask yourself, how long can you really manage something that touches your core values?
The Price of Ignoring Red Flags
The hard truth is: many divorces didn’t start in the marriage, they started before it, with the red flags that were overlooked.
We ignore them because we’re in love, or because society is pressuring us, or simply because we want things to work. But the consequences often follow: unhappy homes, emotional strain, and sometimes, complete breakdown of the marriage.
Location Doesn’t Change the Foundation
You may have heard stories of couples who lived peacefully in Nigeria but relocated abroad, only for their marriage to fall apart. The shift in environment didn’t cause the problem, the ignored red flags did. Unresolved issues don’t disappear; they travel with you.
Protect Your Peace, Don’t Rush
Life is not a race. If you’re in a relationship and serious red flags keep appearing, don’t push them aside. Don’t assume love or marriage will fix them. It’s okay to step back and protect your peace.
Ending a courtship early is better than living a lifetime of regret or enduring a toxic marriage. Your emotional, spiritual, and mental well-being matter.
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